If you Google porn addict you will find the number of hits quite astounding. It can be baffling and cause information overload. On my site I am not really talking to the porn addict, although the information would be invaluable to any porn addicts who cares to read it. I prefer to keep things simple and whenever possible and appropriate, delivered with a sense of humour.
Humour has always been my defence mechanism .
I lived with a porn addict for 3 years and it broke my heart and my spirit, ending with me leaving him and eventually, being treated for PTSD as part of my rehabilitation back into the land where constant exposure to porn isn't the norm.
It took me a long time to realise that my partner was a porn addict, but as I dug deeper, I began to realise that his odd behaviour and low sex drive was not due to anything I was or was not doing; he was and still is, a porn addict. At that time I didn't even know there was such a thing as porn addiction. I had heard of sex addiction thanks to various Hollywood stars having their private lives splashed across the tabloids, but I certainly didn't associated the low sex drive of my partner with being addicted to porn.
Why would I?
Thanks to some wonderful people at various web sites (check out Lindsay's Links) I began to get my head around the fact that my low self esteem and his low sex drive had the same root.
His low sex drive was caused by his full hard drive.
I began to observe him more closely and it soon became obvious that I was living with someone who was addicted to porn. This discovery and the process of accepting what I had found were the inspiration for my book "You Want Me To Do WHAT With That?! The Life Expectancy of a Relationship with a Porn Addict" and were the first steps on my road to recovery.
Hey Lindsay, I think your book is FANTASTIC! This book by Lindsay McKinnon adds a much needed voice to the world of sex and porn addiction -- the voice of the partner. And her voice lends not only understanding, but humor.
Author KR NYE says what he thinks about Lindsay's new book.
From your book, I was able to get a different perspective, and a much more in depth look at the reasons why individuals succumb to the allure of pornography.
Through your writing, even though you tried to put a humorous twist on the subject, I could still feel the hurt and pain you felt as a woman and partner of a porn addict, for all of the demeaning and degrading things your partner tried to get you to do, in their quest for sexual pleasure. KR Nye.